8 Variables to Cracking Your Own Code for Happiness & Success

You're Human Right?

Being human we are in the beautiful yet uncertain predicament of experiencing the human condition. Experiencing great beauty and joy as well as great pain and sorrow. The ups and downs, ying and yang, positive and negative, the duality of life. I myself have experienced the wave of life, a series of events of love, support, loss, depression, abuse, freedom, divorce, forgiveness, financial loss, wholeness, illness, joy and gratitude. Times I felt utterly broken and didn't feel there was any way I could get back up, but I dusted off and stood back up.

Don't Let Your Stories Define You, Stand On Them Instead

My life experiences left me feverishly searching for answers to make sense of a world of complexity, mystery, pain and to me sometimes just utter nonsense. Often left with more questions than answers determined to find peace within and crack the code to my own happiness and success.

My journey of self discovery and search for inner peace led me to many places personally and professionally. I embarked towards a psychology degree, piled through self-help books, attended many courses and conferences around personal growth and self-awareness. Exploring many avenues of spirituality and healing in hopes to find the answer. Questioning every aspect of my own existence and the world around me.

When There Is No Lightening Bolt of Enlightenment

For awhile possibly like many other people I was hoping that in essence I would be struck with a lightning bolt of knowledge, a sudden insight to my own enlightenment and understanding. At least for me that lightning bolt has yet to hit. Instead looking at life through the lens of a pirate in search for treasure finding clues and insights along the way. Hoping that my journey shared provides hope and possibly a blueprint to work from for others feverishly searching for their own peace, happiness and success.

Through my life's work of over 20 years I started to observe aspects of being human that I required or were synergistic to my own well-being. I began observing similarities in people around me. Over time, personally and professionally I conducted my own research through trial and error, action and observation and noticed a pattern emerging.

There are certain elements and variables in life that we need to address, give attention to, become aware of, move through to experience a more peaceful, meaningful and happy existence. Understanding that in every aspect of our lives success does not precede happiness. Our greatest success comes from attending to our human and spiritual elements and being happy first.

I discovered a progression of steps that we grow through to discover our most powerful and authentic selves. A self often hidden and suppressed by learned behaviors, family and societal influences and past experiences of pain and loss. I call it The Human Code for Happiness & Success.

The Human Code For Happiness & Success

Focused on the presence of mind, body, and soul. Where all are interconnected and operate synergistically together we create a map to uncover our greatest authentic selves.

Human Code = PG + Le + E + F + Au + M + PsBA + P

PG = Personal Growth

Our personal growth is a very individual experience and will take different shapes and forms yet for every challenge, experience or circumstance we go through there is an exploration of a series of elements to move through the emotion it creates to arrive a greater place of peace, happiness and fulfillment. The Wheel of Personal Growth:

Our greater society and environment, social and self awareness and how that reflects on our confidence and self worth. Understanding that as humans we are emotional beings and that our feelings and emotions are not positive or negative but tools we can use in the successful navigation of life. Acceptance of the circumstance we face. Forgiveness of our self and others. Gratitude for the experience, learning, and opportunities presented. Acknowledging fear, moving forward and taking action anyway. Express love for ourselves, others, and all that is. In order to change our reality identify our own pain vs. pleasure patterns, where we see the pain of moving forward is less painful than the pain of staying where we are. We all experience pain and is inevitable, suffering is optional.

What new perceptions are created when we work through the elements of personal growth? How does it affect our confidence and self-worth?

Le = Learning

When we become aware of ourselves absent of external influences we become clear on our best path of learning personally and professionally that will lead us to our ultimate destination.

E = Exercise

We are all energy. Everything is energy. Nothing can be created nor destroyed only transformed. Exercise moves the energy within us, enforcing the connection between the mind, body, and spirit bringing alertness, mindfulness, awareness and strength to our being.

F = Fun

In essence we are playful creatures. Just because we grow up and become adults does not omit our need for fun and play. Sometimes we must put effort in remembering, or discovering what truly provides fun and play in our lives.

Au = Autonomy

Each person must have the freedom to direct their own lives, be in charge for their greatest good. Free to choose direction, come up with ideas, innovate, think outside the box. Away from the standard way of doing things.

M = Mastery

Being able to map your path to achievement and success, understanding what success means to you individually and attaining it on your own terms. Personal motivation, momentum and resiliency.

PsBS = Psychological Safety, Belonging and Appreciation

The ability to feel valued as a member and contributor to our family, communities and humanity. Bringing out ideas, opinions without fear of seeming incompetent nor facing judgment or recourse. Everyone is safe to take risks. Receiving appreciation by others for who you are and the value you provide.

P = Purpose

Your purpose is uncovering your path to your own personal legend. The difference you want to make and the impact that you want to have on the world. Your legacy, what others will remember you by.

Is The Human Code a magic formula to riches and fame? I'm not going to lie to you, likely not. But it's a blueprint we can use to discover more about ourselves, the level we are currently playing at, and a way to move forward through our manure piles overcoming inner obstacles holding us back that keep us playing small.